Tuesday, August 18, 2009

When the baby bird learns to fly!

I just read this post by Mniamma. I especially enjoyed reading this line about her 8 month old daughter.

She also crossed over the main door threshold to wave ‘bye’ to M and N and I promptly made payasam to celebrate the occasion.

When KB was a few months old, may be three months old, I don't remember what milestone it was - but when I told my MIL about it, she asked me if I made some sweet to celebrate it. Somehow that was the first time I became aware of that tradition or rather paid attention to it. I am sure I had heard of it before but somehow I had not thought about it. I just love that tradition of making a sweet to celebrate little milestones like a baby's rolling over or crawling or taking the first step.

By that count, I feel almost like making some sweet myself and celebrating what to me is a huge milestone - if not for KB, for me as his mother! KB has been a rather stubborn, strong willed, sensitive child. The tamil phrase "Amma Kondu" is made for him. As the director of the first preschool he went to said to me, he clearly knows what he wants, he is not afraid or shy, he is mad at you for leaving him and going home, he is very articulate, he knows his mind and cannot be distracted. Now with a child like that, it has been hard to just leave him with any one or at drop off programs. He got used to one school last year and I stuck to that school all of last year because he was used to that place and I did want to traumatize him with changes. This year I started him off in a new school beginning of this month and after a minute of crying, he just calmed down and has been enjoying himself. But I had prepped him for it by taking him to that school three times and staying there with him for an hour.

Anyway - back to why I want to make payasam today! I enrolled him in an art class and this class meets every Tuesday for two hours. It is a drop off class and parent participation is not required. I casually asked KB last night if I can just drop him off and come back home with KG and pick him up at 12.00 pm. He too casually said, "Yeah".
"Yeah?" I said.

"Yeah yeah yeah", KB said confidently.

I thought to myself, well, he is just saying it. Am sure when I get there, he will probably start crying. Although a part of me felt that he was sounding quite sure of it. This morning, I drove him to class and filled out the emergency contact information. While I was filling it out, he was already in his spot in the class and he said to me, "Nee po Mamma" (you go mamma). I told him I would leave after filling out the form and wondered if he would cry if he saw me leave. I went and gave him a hug to make sure he knew I was leaving and I told him to be good and that I would see him at 12.00 pm. He said O.K but he continued to focus on the stencil he was working with then. I left the place along with KG.

I kept checking my cell phone to see if the teacher was calling me saying he was crying. I visited a friend for half an hour and came back and hung out by the lake behind the classroom. I could not believe it - KB did not cry at all and was having a good time. This is a class room he has never been to, it looked pretty serious (not so kiddish) - with tables and chairs and kids silently working on their art work without too much noise...the teacher was new and I just left him there and drove out of the place. And he was still fine! For those of you who know KB, I am sure you can feel my joy. Even his going to the new school was not as eventful as this one was to me. My little baby boy who has such a hard time being away from me other than at his preschool managed to stay in a new place on his own and enjoyed himself! KNOCK ON WOOD!
Mniamma, if I don't make payasam this week, you should send me a e-kick! :)


Poppy said...

I feel it ! I know what you mean. It's a bigger milestone than anything else they ever did.

- From another mom to an amma kondu

Praveen said...

Kutty Boy is growing up!
My niece is doing good. Thank you!

Neera said...

:) I feel it too :) And now do you remember those numerous comments from last year which told you that one day you'll write about one such day when he didn't cry at all at a new place. I am thrilled the day has come. Hugs to KB and to you :)

Mamma mia! Me a mamma? said...

Yaaayyy!! See! I told you it would happen! Am pleased as punch for you :)

Now go make that payasam while I nibble on a piece of chocolate to celebrate your joy :)

(hehehe...any excuse!)

Suma said...

i hope you did make that payasam, it is a big milestone... :)

Mama - Mia said...


how awesome is that Noon! :)

yes it totally deserves a paysam party!



Kodi's Mom said...

high-five, Noonie!
it is a payasam-worthy-milestone :)

sole said...

Glad you are back with your posts :)! A big milestone indeed and what a huge relief it must be! Celebrate, celebrate and celebrate :).......

K 3 said...

Hope you made some yummy payasam already! :)

mnamma said...

Yayyy to KB and to you!!!! So what payasam is it? I remember an email exchange that we had a few months ago- you were worried about KB and look he has become a big boy now - "Amma nee po" must have been so thrilling/tinge of sadness also to hear that :)

Preethi said...

yes yes yes make the payasam.. hope you did.. I had an amma koondu too who grew out of it.. maybe its just a phase.. this year in India he just waves me bye bye and goes traipsing off with relatives.. the same guy who would refuse to leave my side!! Your little boy is growing up Noonie.. so is mine .. sigh!!

Trish said...

OMG!!Noonie..U are back..Ichecked my reader today..and there are so many posts from you..:)
And congrats on KB's latest milestone!
*does a jig and hums..yayy another fav. blogger is back*

Aryan said...

Yes I can imagine noon....how you must be feeling..KB is now BB...how cute he is na...E-kick you want or you made payasam already?
Aryan's mom

Cantaloupes.Amma (CA) said...

How cool is that Noon !!
Big hurray !

Collection Of Stars said...

I am really happy for you Noon knowing how worried you have been :)
I did not know the tradition about maing a sweet when the child meets a milestone. It sounds good though.

noon said...

Poppy - Thanks girl! I know you know what I mean! :)

Praveen - Yup! Growing up too fast!

Neera - Seriously - I do remember those days...I still am not able to believe it sometimes!

MMia - Thanks! Did you really have chocolate to celebrate my joy?! I hope so!!

Suma - I did! You know it helps to declare such resolutions publicly - I waited to respond to comments until I made that payasam - finally only last night I did!

Abha - smiley face - come join the payasam party please!

Kodi - and why aren't you here to have some payasam with me and celebrate our two silly numbers boys big milestone?!

Sole - come on over, join the party!

K3 - yes, I did finally! :)

noon said...

Mniamma - I made badam kheer. Thanks to your post, I feel like I celebrated what is a big milestone in my mind for KB!

Preethi - sigh sigh sigh! :) When they need us desperately one day and off they go not looking back another day! :)

Trish - you are so sweet Trish! How have you been? Long long time!

Aryan - BB indeed! I was so afraid of your e-kick - I decided enough already - I HAVE to make payasam (somehow just did not get around to it partly because only myself and KG will have it at home) - so last night I did it!

CA - thanks!

CofS - thanks! Yeah it is a nice tradition, you should do it too! :)

dipali said...

How wonderful! He's older and more confident- definitely reason to celebrate:)