tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post8123147209609279577..comments2023-11-02T02:51:40.054-07:00Comments on noon: Just the four of us...noonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03844071708334559013noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-9719263517911940452007-11-16T11:00:00.000-08:002007-11-16T11:00:00.000-08:00Congrats on making it through the first few weeks ...Congrats on making it through the first few weeks mom. It will only get better :) KG looks adorable, very cute.<BR/>About ignoring one while taking care of the other, its not that you are ignoring, you are letting them do things on their own :) They learn to be more independent and responsible in the process, thats the hope anyway :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-30730889491248054702007-11-16T08:55:00.000-08:002007-11-16T08:55:00.000-08:00KG looks so adorable ... she is indeed a little do...KG looks so adorable ... she is indeed a little doll.<BR/> I know it feels so void when close family is around for a while with you and they leave. But with time, you will soon get used to the new way of living.<BR/> Congrats on making it through the first week !!!Cantaloupes.Amma (CA)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06507339903683786496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-18194567001085883912007-11-14T23:11:00.000-08:002007-11-14T23:11:00.000-08:00Ter - thanks! And thanks also for telling me this ...Ter - thanks! <BR/>And thanks also for telling me this - I feel the same way - just dont' connect with the "perfect" women what with all my imperfections. I want a relaxed, say it is as it is chat - not the "oh, my kid eats veggies raw and sleeps 7 to 7 no problem, am such a great mom" type of discussion (even if it is true) !:). Date night with husband - wonder what he would say to that! :)<BR/>I dream of the day when kids will be more grown up and be able to manage some things on their own - much as I will miss all this then !:)noonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03844071708334559013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-46412022186838093412007-11-14T18:25:00.000-08:002007-11-14T18:25:00.000-08:00What a cute photo with her chubby limbs! Makes me ...What a cute photo with her chubby limbs! Makes me want to squeeze her. <BR/>I remember the solitude very well. I joined the local mom's club and discovered I had nothing in common with women who did everything on schedule, wore makeup, woke up at 6 a.m., went on date nights with their husbands and kept an impeccable house. <BR/>I did make one good friend whose house was a mess and she dropped in to visit Indian style, without announcing. <BR/>I don't know if the loneliness passes. I caved in when my youngest was two and joined the work force. Despite the maternal guilt that surfaces from time to time, I don't think I want to go back to staying home.Terri the terrifichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17727012725113389350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-38740412786022063562007-11-14T13:18:00.000-08:002007-11-14T13:18:00.000-08:00Hi Anitha - thanks so much...yes, it is really dep...Hi Anitha - thanks so much...<BR/>yes, it is really depressing when it gets dark. I turn on the lights and sing and talk to the kids so we don't feel so lonely. But the silence is so loud esp when it is dark!<BR/>Trip - it's a short flight but I am visiting my two sisters/ cousins/friends - have to go to five difft houses and stay for a few days - don't know who to skip out on - every one wants quality time - anyway hoping kids wont' fall sick and we will have a good time.<BR/><BR/>Orchid - Thanks..<BR/>hoping that it is true - gets easier when they are older. Although yesterday an older person with kids who are now working said that it never really gets totally easier - just different worries at different times! :)<BR/><BR/>Mnamma - kutti krishni - I like that :) <BR/>Grandparents are a blessing for the children - just the best for them after parents - special kind of love.<BR/><BR/>Nm - thanks. That;s so funny. So were you able to do it?! :)<BR/><BR/>MM - thanks. I often think about you and wonder how you manage (even if you have a maid - it is still not the same) when the OA is away on work. Must be a ton of work. And you keep your house so clean on top of it - really really amazing. Also wonder about Bean's eczema - amazing isn't it - the coincidence - same age difference, boy/girl/ gentle types and kutti girl also has eczema. Am trying Vusion cream - not too effective. Have the next derm appt next month.<BR/><BR/>Shobana - thanks. Well as long as the kids are resilient (which I think they are) we somehow cope up with the work. I just feel very bad that I am unable to cuddle and enjoy baby girl as much as I would like to...just not enough time. Only able to take care of the basics!noonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03844071708334559013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-18385812771326959372007-11-14T13:06:00.000-08:002007-11-14T13:06:00.000-08:00Hi Kiran - time does make it better - you do heal ...Hi Kiran - time does make it better - you do heal in some ways. Except you cannot stop longing for "those days" when every one was alive and healthy and you took it all for granted!<BR/><BR/>CofS - thanks. Oh 3m all alone - even with one child - it can feel very lonely. With two kids if B were to be away for 3m he will have to come back and meet me in an asylum! :)<BR/>Thanks - picture was shot by B actually. It is a great pic but only can't see the big toe actually in her mouth - we have a great one of it for Kutti boy when he did it...<BR/><BR/>Dotmom - exactly - the company is what I miss. Even if I forget one thing upstairs all three of us go and come back down again. Even if I tell KB to wait for one minute he will come right behind me! He wants to do all the things I want to help him with on his own. And anything I want him to do on his own, he won't. Extremely adamant about some things. He carry his glass of juice and go up the stairs and if I tell him I will help him with the glass he will say no - sometimes so vehemently that he will shake and spill the juice!noonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03844071708334559013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-66680585701916176502007-11-14T09:49:00.000-08:002007-11-14T09:49:00.000-08:00You are doing an amazing job taking care of 2 litt...You are doing an amazing job taking care of 2 little children all by urself. As a parent I think we have the resiliency to adapt in any situation. <BR/><BR/>The baby looks so cute in that picture.Shobanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12226266440155745217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-52332040276799382022007-11-14T09:45:00.000-08:002007-11-14T09:45:00.000-08:00what a lovely post and topped with a lovely pictur...what a lovely post and topped with a lovely picture... here's a big hug to you for handling it all alone. I am often alone too but somehow being in India and having the parents an overnight journey away makes me feel braver. I've never had to call them but the knowledge that they are there gives me the strength. hang in there. In a year you will be better placed. I know a year is a long time but what choice do we have?! :)the mad mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535453643548976883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-50745513457778594482007-11-14T01:51:00.000-08:002007-11-14T01:51:00.000-08:00Awww..what a lovely picture! Super cute! You know ...Awww..what a lovely picture! Super cute! You know when I saw my son doing that I even tried to do it myself :P~nmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16483363042572158612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-20346327196787963782007-11-13T11:04:00.000-08:002007-11-13T11:04:00.000-08:00Missed your posts Noon. KG looks so adorable - kut...Missed your posts Noon. KG looks so adorable - kutti krishni :) I can understand the empty feeling and the loneliness. It gets better but I think our children do miss out a lot with their grandparents. I do get frustrated even in this stage when M and N are a little grown up and understand things a little bit better. You are doing a wonderful job with KB and KG. Have a safe trip.mnammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09344689534760708942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-34005340794959217132007-11-13T10:46:00.000-08:002007-11-13T10:46:00.000-08:00What an adorable picture...makes me miss Li'l A's ...What an adorable picture...makes me miss Li'l A's baby years :(<BR/>You are doing very well, I can imagine how hard it must be but hang in there..once the kids get a li'l older it will be a li'l easier..at least that's what they say..have a good trip!By Deepa and Supriyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07747804542943614606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-52182580915037926242007-11-13T07:57:00.000-08:002007-11-13T07:57:00.000-08:00A touching post and a adoooorrable picture of the ...A touching post and a adoooorrable picture of the Kutti girl, Noon. Have been missing your posts and comments too. I cannot imagine managing 2 kids on my own without any kind of help. You are awesome! The "getting dark soon" thing gets me too. It just makes me feel gloomy and depressive. Trip may sound daunting now, but after you make it, you will be a stronger mom for your kids. Take Care!Anitha(Nikki's mom)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09495068574562700727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-13610195064608601282007-11-13T06:41:00.000-08:002007-11-13T06:41:00.000-08:00good to have you back noon! I know how it feels. T...good to have you back noon! I know how it feels. The house feels so empty. Its not the chores that much, but the company and the camaraderie. But do encourage Kutti Boy to help you. You will be amazed at how delighted he will be to do things on his own. Keep us updated on how you are coping!Savanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13781198953037866788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-54461442489545433312007-11-13T00:30:00.000-08:002007-11-13T00:30:00.000-08:00Missed to say, the picture is great - your kutti g...Missed to say, the picture is great - your kutti girl looks so cute and you captured it perfectly :)Collection Of Starshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18379268249880680384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-71523044926720130712007-11-13T00:29:00.000-08:002007-11-13T00:29:00.000-08:00I know exactly how you feel. My mom stayed with me...I know exactly how you feel. My mom stayed with me for 6 months after KT was born. The house seemed empty after she left. Then my husband was away on a business trip for 3 months and I just about managed. But with 2 kids, I know it is much much more difficult - you have to ignore one to cater to the other. The scheduling every small thing and the balancing act just gets to you sometimes.<BR/>You seem to be doing a great job. All the best to you and I am sure your trip will go fine :)Collection Of Starshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18379268249880680384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-84397964013027750852007-11-12T23:59:00.000-08:002007-11-12T23:59:00.000-08:00Such a wonderful picture noon, and my heart went o...Such a wonderful picture noon, and my heart went out to you. Hope you feel better knowing your father is definitely around watching kutti girl....the vaccum will never get filled, but time is the only healer. A pithy statement but true.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02528271916192411200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-21611762522323428472007-11-12T16:25:00.000-08:002007-11-12T16:25:00.000-08:00Hi UshaYes the vacuum does strike hard. Silence is...Hi Usha<BR/>Yes the vacuum does strike hard. Silence is so loud in every room you go to when just one person is missing. <BR/>Thanks...I love to watch kids do that too!<BR/><BR/>30in05 - Thanks. Not sure if I am coping well - if the kid's cope well, then I cope well! :)<BR/><BR/>Tharini - Thanks on both counts...<BR/>Well the journey continues on. Being the sole care giver is quite demanding - I don't mind the work but I just feel bad when I have no choice but to ignore one kid and attend to the other - not as much time to enjoy and relish what they do - but like my cousin who went through the same situation says - that's all they need now - their basics being met with care and love. Baby girl is learning to fall asleep fast - I don't have time to keep rocking her - if I have to go downstairs and feed kutti boy I just let her fall asleep in the crib. Some days it works, some days she is more demanding. As long as one kid cooperates, I can handle the other! :)<BR/>I know - the sun makes such a difference!<BR/>We finished one long flight and got back. I have one short flight and a 2.5 week stay w/out B - visiting sisters/cousins etc, for NY's have one more long flight to attend a reception. <BR/>How much fun I have will depend on how the kid's cope! :)<BR/>Thanks T! <BR/><BR/>Rohini - thanks. Well working moms have a different juggling act to deal with...each has it's own problems and plusses. Working moms have it hardest when kid's fall sick - as I see it happen here with my friends...who takes time off today question, the guilt of leaving a sick child with someone else etc etc...not easy either way.<BR/><BR/>Poppins mom - thanks! :)<BR/>As I tell B - if I am able to make dinner for him, he has his children to thank! For giving those 20-30min to get dinner ready! :)noonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03844071708334559013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-23309100330784114392007-11-12T10:22:00.000-08:002007-11-12T10:22:00.000-08:00What an awesome picture. And I knew you were busy ...What an awesome picture. And I knew you were busy traveling but still missed your posts !<BR/><BR/>It's great that you seem to be doing OK, it is hard to manage without help, but you're doing an awesome job. Way to go !Sunita Venkatachalamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02999860004277224419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-30346892884733483902007-11-12T06:59:00.000-08:002007-11-12T06:59:00.000-08:00I think you are awesome for managing two kids the ...I think you are awesome for managing two kids the way you did all by yourself. And people think working moms have it hard :)<BR/><BR/>I am sure you'll settle down just fine. Hope you have a good trip.Rohinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234347487003665907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-88698819728315370022007-11-12T05:20:00.000-08:002007-11-12T05:20:00.000-08:00Noonie...its sooo nice to see a post from you. I d...Noonie...its sooo nice to see a post from you. I didn't realise how much I had missed reading you, until you posted today. And with such a cuuuuuuute picture of the little doll...wow!! <BR/><BR/>CongratulTIONS on making it thru without your mom. There's something very strengthening in being the sole care giver of your two children, isn't it? That's what I relish each time. No matter how crazy it gets....I love that we can all go crazy together, at least. :)<BR/><BR/>I know what u mean abt getting dark, and dull spirits etc. I long for some sun too. I don't even mind that its cold so long as the sun makes an appearance everyday without being thwarted by the clouds.<BR/><BR/>Take care, enjoy your trip...and you will be stronger after that flight trip with both the kids.<BR/><BR/>Lots of love!Tharinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09553983156612215920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-84562776088652539962007-11-12T03:18:00.000-08:002007-11-12T03:18:00.000-08:00That is a wonderful picture!And clearly you are co...That is a wonderful picture!<BR/><BR/>And clearly you are coping very well on your own.30in2005https://www.blogger.com/profile/17890962493413799278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13548905.post-55187364093490646392007-11-12T00:29:00.000-08:002007-11-12T00:29:00.000-08:00It is so good to have close family around and shar...It is so good to have close family around and share our joyfulmoments especially when the babies are growing up. And when they leave the vacuum strikes so hard but you also realise how thankful you are for having each other all the time and the children to brighten your lives.<BR/>That is a very beautiful picture of kutti girl - I love watching kids do that so effortlessly. :)Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.com